Most people want to change their lifestyle, but they really don’t know where to start. It can be very overwhelming, especially if you haven’t been taking good care of yourself so far. The very first thing I would suggest is take a look at the motivations for your change. Are you overweight and want to lose some weight? Are you making way too many visits to the doctor and missing way too much work? Are you tired and out of breath when you don’t really feel like you’ve done much. Are you trying to look better so that someone will love you or love you more? Some people might say that it really doesn’t matter the reason why you want to lose weight, get in shape, or just plain get healthier. I disagree. The very first thing you have to decide is who are you doing this for? For years I worked at losing weight and getting in shape so that I could be like my older sister who was always smaller than me. She is also shorter than I am and has a completely different body type, but that didn’t matter to me. In my mind, she was prettier, thinner and got all the boys, so I wanted to be like her. The problem is that no matter how hard I tried, I could never really be like my sister and I wasn’t supposed to be. We are inundated with images all the time, on the internet, on tv, and in magazines, and we are expected to believe those images are reality. Unfortunately, most of the pictures of actors and actresses are photo shopped, they are not reality. That doesn’t stop us from wanting to look the same as the perceived beauty that we see every day. The most important thing I’ve learned in the last few years is that we are all made differently and that’s the way it is supposed to be. We’re not all supposed to look the same! Each one of us is beautiful just the way we are and the first step is to accept ourselves, like we are today, before we decide what changes need to be made.